Thursday, December 13, 2012

7 Years

A wise friend sent me a message today containing all of the profound things that she knows now that she has been twenty and not a teenager for almost a week. The message read:

I am comfortable with being myself. Every interaction can be meaningful. Bad things happen to good people, so be the person that can bounce back. You can be smart and happy or stupid and miserable. If you don't want to do something, say no. If you do want to do something, work to make it happen. Chance is risky. Karma is inescapable. Tell the people you love that you love them. Prove it.

As I was reading this, I could not help but think to myself that this was incredible. To see all of these seemingly simple ideas that I have struggled with for such a long time and am just now beginning to figure out expressed by someone who had a huge impact on who I am now... It's kind of indescribable.

I mean, this girl and I went through so much together. We struggled with finding out who we really were and who we wanted to be. We shared our biggest thoughts and inspirations with each other. When we just needed someone to share our incredibly conflicting ideas about the universe with we went to each other. We experienced loss and triumph. We learned that even the best of friends can not help but disagree sometimes. From our friendship, I eventually learned that if someone is really important to you they will always be a part of your life. No matter the distance or the time spread between you.

I just find it incredibly crazy to see how far we have both come in the seven years since we met. Seven. Years. And we somehow made it out of those years being confident in ourselves and in our lives. There were times when we both struggled with different things and there were times when I, at least, tried to make myself believe things that I just did not feel were true. While we may be such incredibly different people now that our paths only cross once a month or so, I am so proud of how things have turned out for us and I would not change a thing.

Because that is important. Not to regret the experiences that made you who you are. Even the biggest mistakes can be learned from. And those lessons are incredibly valuable. The friendships that we lose or set aside, the chances we miss out on, the damage we inevitably cause, can all be worth it if we learn from them and if we realize the value that they have within our lives.

Thanks for getting my brain moving, Kara. It's been a while.